i always seem to find myself immersed in religious conversations. Friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and relative strangers–all of them seem to drive discussion toward God, faith, and religious belief. At some point, I think that this tendency arises from a misunderstanding. That is, when people find out about my educational background in theological and religious studies, and my professional background as a pastor, they seem to assume that these realities, which I regard as my past, are in fact my present. This misunderstanding often leads directly into religious conversations, as they seek to pin down precisely who I am.
This week, I had just such a discussion with a neighbor of mine, who happens to be a Hindu. I had mentioned, prior to this, that I had a BA in Religion, and that I was currently pursuing an MA in Theological Studies, to which she responded with, “You should work in the church!” In such occasions, I typically avoid any clear or direct response, preferring to leave things obscure and vague so as to avoid any social turmoil. In this case, however, I was happy to engage in the conversation, as I had never discussed religion with a practicing Hindu. The conversation went something like this:
I responded to her inquiries into my possible career with the church. “Despite my interest in the academic study of religion,” I explained, “I no longer feel that I have a place in the church.” She asked a rather leading question about my still being a Christian, to which I responded, “No, I am not a Christian.” Then she moved on to an inquiry into my acceptance of a God-beyond-organized-religion. And once again, I answered negatively–that I do not believe in God. She took this in stride, and began to shift the conversation away from my beliefs and toward her own. From what I could gather from our brief engagement, she holds something of a pantheistic belief in God–that God is “all of life.” That no religion, no name for God, encapsulates the essence of God, and that it is the good in life, the hope and beauty, that most adequately captures what she means by the name “God.”
In response to her interreligious openness, I offered her a hesitant but overall positive response, saying that though I could not claim belief in any sort of literal God-figure, I could ascribe to some bits of the “God-as-life” ideology. I did not delve further into my own beliefs on the matter, but felt that the initial conversation was a positive moment of mutual connection–a moment in which two people with remarkably different “religious” beliefs came together to mutually affirm one another.
Some of the staunchest proponents of atheism would likely balk at my unwillingness to explicitly state my total disbelief in any sort of external person or force named God. Some might claim that I misrepresented myself in an effort to create a false sense of agreement with a woman I encounter daily. And perhaps they are correct; after all, my honest, unqualified answer to her question is simply, “No, I do not believe in God, a god, any god.” Why, then, did I not simply state my disbelief and leave no ambiguity?
Part of the answer is found in my disinclination toward conflict. I did not want a conversation to become an argument or a religious debate. I did want to maintain social cohesion, and so I was willing to take the road of compromise in order to avoid such conflict. Aside from this, I am also a man of doubt. I doubt the complete accuracy of my atheistic conclusions. I do not believe that I hold the absolute truth. I do not have the answers, do not truly think I will ever hold the final answer. And so I am, again, willing to entertain ideas foreign to my own ideology, and to “live and let live.” Though I am rather convinced of its accuracy, I am not certain that atheism is the right answer, the only answer, and so I am comfortable with some sense of ambiguity. I present myself in ambiguous terms because, ideologically, I live in a haze of ideas, a fog of beliefs where certainty is not an asset but a hindrance to the journey of life.
But mostly, I refused to set myself up as an opponent of faith, to place myself wholly outside the realm of religious belief because, in a sense, I do regard God as “all of life.” Let me explain.
To me, belief in God comes in two main forms. There are those who believe that a literal, external force exists in some place, either in or beyond the world of the natural. And this force is directly, intentionally responsible for the good in life, for the strength to endure hardship, for the good in humanity and in life. My Hindu friend seems to stand within this camp–believing that there is a Being who sustains the world and brings about the positive. A force for good, whether called by the name Jesus, Allah, Buddha, Krishna, or simply “God.”
Then, there are those who, while rejecting belief in an external force or being, still find the name of God to be a powerful word that can convey a sense of wonder, beauty, hope, and goodness. That is, rather than regard God as an external force, these folks seem to speak of God as an internal impulse, a drive toward harmony, the capacity for good in the universe. God is not, in this sense, beyond or even necessarily in the world; instead, God is the goodness within the self. God is what it means to love, to be fully human, to strive towards goodness. John Shelby Spong could be an example of this branch of belief.
And I, in my fledgling secularism, still maintain a connection to this latter form of nontheistic belief. God is not a being, a force, or even a consciousness. God is not a literal reality as I am a reality; nor is God simply beyond the reach of the natural. Rather, God can be a metaphor for those parts of life which are beyond easy definition. God is a word I use to give expression to, and indeed cultivate, my sense of wonder and awe. An idea that gives cohesion to life–that allows one to speak of life in spiritual or mystical terms. In this way, I can agree with my Hindu friend that the name “God” can be a useful expression for the totality of the human experience. Not as a definite identity or intentional force, but simply as a way of affirming the goodness of life. And though we may not agree precisely on what we each conceive of when we say or hear the word “God,” we can at least find a point of connection in our mutual acceptance of the beauty of this life we find ourselves in. To her, God is a being that encapsulates all of life. For me, God is a metaphor for the positive acceptance of the totality of life.
And so, I can comfortably let the ambiguity remain. It may not always be so–I may not always be so open to the use of God-language and mythology to give a sense of wholeness and meaning to life. But for now, I can choose to place maintenance of relationship above my need to defend my ideology as the only reasonable way. I can, and prefer to, believe that the worthier fight, in this case, is the fight to stand side-by-side with those who are different from myself, rather than the fight to assert the absolute superiority of my own disbelief in God.
I have a Hindu friend who believes that God is “all of life.” And I, though an atheist, can somehow agree with such a notion.