It has been nearly four years since I first began identifying myself as an atheist. Of course, this self-proclaiming was never a constant; I wavered, time and again, between Atheism ( capital “a”) and progressive mysticism and non-literal spirituality. But autumn of 2008 remains for me the season in which I made a decisive break with faith. It was and is a turning point in this meandering, shiftless quest for Darwin-knows-what. (That bit is a joke, intended for those imbeciles who suggest atheism to be the worship of Charles Darwin).
Before all this, though, I was often accused of being deeply introspective. I spent hours agonizing over the internal nature of my mind. My heart. Every action was met with analysis, every whim with self-conscious rumination. Knowing myself was, to me, kind of the point of this whole exercise. Of faith and of life, to know myself was the goal.
Indeed, it was this quest inward which broke the pillars of my faith. Certainly, the critical, unflinching scholarly study of religion and Christianity brought desolation upon my honest faith; but my inward-looking nature shared in the blame. It led me to the realization that, in order to remain true to my ideals–of knowledge, reason, and integrity–I had to abandon God. There was no place for me, even in progressive-liberal Christianity. I could be honest with myself, or I could be religious. I chose honesty, and have spent the past few years tumbling down the stony slope of Mount Faith.
The tumultuous internal and external changes of the past four years, which have ushered me into the life I now lead, had a curious, though perhaps not unexpected, effect on my temperament. It struck me, as I sat listening to Justin Townes Earle sing, in his wounded drawl:
So I’m learning, learning to be a better man.
I’m not certain but I think I can now.
Ah, but if I fall short just know
I’ve done all I can do to change.
I thought back to my days in seminary, seemingly a full lifetime past now. i thought back to the way I was, always with one eye on the heart, actively considering things like character. And always worrying over the man I was becoming. I’ll admit, it was with some sense of loss, looking at myself now, that I realized: I am not trying to be better.
I am not trying to be anything.
I do what comes naturally to me. I have spent a lifetime creating habits, and I live by those habit, by repetition. Perhaps the introspection is not totally lost to me, for immediately i was gripped by a searching mind. Questions flooded through me, and continued to haunt me day-after-day. What kind of person am I? What kind of person will I become, living without an inward-turned eye? Not the person I dreamed I would be. But how will I know, now, whether my dreams are worthy of my character? What is my character these days?
Am I cruel? Am I truthful? Am I loyal? Or are the actions I take merely reflexes, the learned reactions of a person that is accustomed to acting kind, honest, honorable? (The last one probably reveals that I’ve been watching too much “Game of Thrones,” seven take you! But, god damn if Sean Bean isn’t the most attractive man alive.)
I once valued introspection and critical self-analysis above all other attributes. It pushed me to excel, to treat others well, and to look at myself honestly and unflinchingly. I could look at myself in the mirror then and know that, if nothing else, I was trying to become better. All of it was spurred on by fear of God, and done for the sake of God at the time, of course. And so when I abandoned religion, my introspection and “character-keeping” went with it.
I would like to think that I have it in me to reclaim that reflective thoughtfulness, that will to know myself and better myself, without reference to deities and fiery punishments and palaces of pearl. Do I really need, have I ever really needed, God to make me a remarkable person? Was it ever God who made me kind or honest?
No. I do not need religion to be a better person. A lie, no matter how pretty or convincing, is never a solid foundation for building character. To know myself, for the betterment of myself, is a worthy enough pursuit.